It’s OK To Say No

Over the last couple of months, those of you who are regular readers will probably have noticed that there have been fewer posts than usual.

Don’t worry, I didn’t forget about you and there haven’t been any disasters.

Life has just been busier than usual, and I’ve had to prioritise the children – both my own and those I teach.

The reality is that as much as I would love to be able to do everything, there are times when I just can’t.

And as guilty as I feel about that, I have had to learn to say ‘No’ or at least ‘Not right now’ and to hope that people understand, that that doesn’t mean I don’t care.

And the truth is it doesn’t.

Instead it means, right now I’m feeling overwhelmed, that I’m juggling too many balls and not at all sure where to look next. It means I’m trying my best not to let anyone down, but I’m not sure that I’m doing a very good job at all. It means I’ve bitten off a lot right now, and that I hope you’ll understand.

And the reality is, that as much as I like to post every day, no disasters happened because I disappeared for a little while. You all survived, and I hope don’t think less of me for the fact that I needed a little break.

A chance to get back on top of the to do list, and time to make sure that both my children and the children I teach were getting the best of me.

It’s taught me something too. It’s taught me that actually I can say no, I can prioritise, and that doesn’t mean that I have to lose the things I enjoy, it just means that there are times I’ll have to shelve them – just for a little while.

So why am I telling you all of this?

I’m telling you, quite simply because I know like me there are times when life gets in the way, times you feel overwhelmed, frustrated and worried that you can’t keep up.

Times when you are worried that you don’t know where to turn, times when you know there are too many balls that you are juggling.

Times when you just need to say ‘No’ or at least ‘Not right now’.

And I know that you like me need to know, that those who you have to say ‘No’ to, will understand, will realise that you still care, that you still love them, that you will still be there.

But that right now, right at this moment, you just need to focus on surviving, on getting through; on giving your children what they need.

And that that, is absolutely ok.

No, more than ok.

It’s the right thing. The thing that will help you regain your equilibrium, your control, and help you get back on top of that to do list that never quite ends.

Because your sanity matters too.

Remember that always.

It’s ok to say ‘No’.

Because there will be a time in the not so distant future when you will be back on top and ready to say “Yes” once again.


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