To the mummy who is worried about whether her decisions are right.
They are. Your decisions are always right, because you know your children best, because you love them the most. Because every decision you make, you make with them in mind. You’ve got this. Decisions are tough but you can do it.
To the mummy who hasn’t got dressed today.
It’s ok. Sometimes a day off is exactly what you need. It’s ok to take time out, to hide from the world. To watch TV, to read a book, to cuddle on the sofa, to eat rubbish food. Tomorrow is a whole new day. Today was you getting ready to face it. You’ve got this. You can do it.
To the mummy who wonders whether to stay at home or go back to work.
You can do this. If you are happy, your little one will be happy. Banish that guilt. There is no right and wrong. You’ve got this. Shower your little ones in kisses and follow your dreams, at home or at work, whatever works for you.
To the mummy who worries that her child doesn’t eat.
You can do this. You can smile at mealtimes and make them fun. You can prepare endless meals that will never be eaten. You can hide in your bedroom and have a cry. But you’ve got this. You can do it. It may take a while but you will get there. You are strong enough and so are they.
To the mummy who is worried that her child doesn’t play.
You will find a way. It’s hard at first but you will find a way round it, a way of playing with them on their own level, a way of creating new games. One day, they may surprise you and play your games too. But for now, you’ve got this, it’s ok to do it their way.
To the mummy who hasn’t slept.
I know it’s hard, oh so hard. But it will get easier. Your child won’t always wake in the night. One day you will get to sleep again, hey one day you’ll even be the one that gets to wake them. Grab the chocolate, grab the coffee and be kind to yourself. You’ve got this. You can do it.
To the mummy whose partner has left.
It’s ok, you’re allowed to be sad, you’re allowed to be hurt, you’re allowed to be angry, you’re allowed to be scared. Give yourself time to feel everything you need to feel. It won’t always be like this. You will recover. You’ll find a happiness greater than you ever imagined. You are strong, so very strong. You’ve got this.
To the mummy who worries that she doesn’t know what do do.
Let me tell you a secret, we’re all just winging it, every single one of us. And that’s ok, because there are no rules, each child is different, each mummy is different. This is the one time in your life you get to make all the rules, and be sure they are right. You’ve got this. You know everything you need to know.
To the mummy whose child just got a diagnosis.
I know this is scary, oh so scary. I know you wonder if you are up to finding out all you need to know, to learning all there is to learn, to parenting in a different kind of way. You are. You have got this. You will find a strength you never knew existed, you will be the best mummy your child could dream of. Love will make it happen.
To the mummy who needs a break.
It’s ok, we all need a break sometimes. Don’t feel guilty, don’t feel bad. Take some time. Get a rest. Recharge those batteries mummy, and come back stronger. You can do this. I know you can.
You’ve got this mummies.
All of this. Whatever life throws at you. Whatever happens. You are super human. You can do it.
You know I know?
There’s a little one that told me so.
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