You’ve Got This

You’ve Got This

To the mummy who is worried about whether her decisions are right.

They are. Your decisions are always right, because you know your children best, because you love them the most. Because every decision you make, you make with them in mind. You’ve got this. Decisions are tough but you can do it.

To the mummy who hasn’t got dressed today.

It’s ok. Sometimes a day off is exactly what you need. It’s ok to take time out, to hide from the world. To watch TV, to read a book, to cuddle on the sofa, to eat rubbish food. Tomorrow is a whole new day. Today was you getting ready to face it. You’ve got this. You can do it.

To the mummy who wonders whether to stay at home or go back to work.

You can do this. If you are happy, your little one will be happy. Banish that guilt. There is no right and wrong. You’ve got this. Shower your little ones in kisses and follow your dreams, at home or at work, whatever works for you.

To the mummy who worries that her child doesn’t eat.

You can do this. You can smile at mealtimes and make them fun. You can prepare endless meals that will never be eaten. You can hide in your bedroom and have a cry. But you’ve got this. You can do it. It may take a while but you will get there. You are strong enough and so are they.

To the mummy who is worried that her child doesn’t play.

You will find a way. It’s hard at first but you will find a way round it, a way of playing with them on their own level, a way of creating new games. One day, they may surprise you and play your games too. But for now, you’ve got this, it’s ok to do it their way.

To the mummy who hasn’t slept.

I know it’s hard, oh so hard. But it will get easier. Your child won’t always wake in the night. One day you will get to sleep again, hey one day you’ll even be the one that gets to wake them. Grab the chocolate, grab the coffee and be kind to yourself. You’ve got this. You can do it.

To the mummy whose partner has left.

It’s ok, you’re allowed to be sad, you’re allowed to be hurt, you’re allowed to be angry, you’re allowed to be scared. Give yourself time to feel everything you need to feel. It won’t always be like this. You will recover. You’ll find a happiness greater than you ever imagined. You are strong, so very strong. You’ve got this.

To the mummy who worries that she doesn’t know what do do.

Let me tell you a secret, we’re all just winging it, every single one of us. And that’s ok, because there are no rules, each child is different, each mummy is different. This is the one time in your life you get to make all the rules, and be sure they are right. You’ve got this. You know everything you need to know.

To the mummy whose child just got a diagnosis.

I know this is scary, oh so scary. I know you wonder if you are up to finding out all you need to know, to learning all there is to learn, to parenting in a different kind of way. You are. You have got this. You will find a strength you never knew existed, you will be the best mummy your child could dream of. Love will make it happen.

To the mummy who needs a break.

It’s ok, we all need a break sometimes. Don’t feel guilty, don’t feel bad. Take some time. Get a rest. Recharge those batteries mummy, and come back stronger. You can do this. I know you can.

You’ve got this mummies.

All of this. Whatever life throws at you. Whatever happens. You are super human. You can do it.

You know I know?

There’s a little one that told me so.

What Next?

If you do want to learn more you might find our autism section a useful place to start. It’s full of different strategies to try out.

If you are worrying about how to ease the stress of the return to school why not join our FREE back to school challenge.

Or why not join our private Facebook Group, which brings parents of children with Autism together.

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52 thoughts on “You’ve Got This

  1. I needed to read this! What a wonderful empowering post. I think we’re all guilty of a bit of mum-guilt and self doubt now and then and it’s good to remind ourselves we can do this!

  2. This was a very lovely post to read. I’m having that dilema of returning to work or not yet and it’s so hard.I feel incredibly guilty if I do, or worse if I stay home as my husband has to work extra hours to provide for us.

  3. All mummies go through tough and testing times, it just how you bounce back thats important. I remember my mummy not getting dressed for days after she had me. Little victories helped her x

  4. This has put a nice big smile on my face. I’ve been worrying all day that keeping Oscar off school every time he’s ill is wrong. I think he has the lowest attendance in his class. However, he’s never been in a nursery or school-like situation before, so I guess he’s bound to keep picking things up, and after reading this I know I’m right. Thank you so much for your kind words, even if they weren’t directed entirely at me 🙂

    Louise x

    1. Bless you, it really is so hard to know what to do sometimes. Sending so much love to you, I’m glad my words helped. You’ve got this mummy. X

  5. ive had what i think has to be the worse week yet of being mum to 8, i just feel everythig i do is the wrong thing , i see no thanks and feel that no one actually cares for me no more, im stuck in that rut where itry my best and do everythig i can , im home educatiing them all and get no me time what so ever, my husband doesnt get any him time with me , its my birthday next week and all i can think about is how im terrified my babies wont get what they ask for for xmas and im stressed to bits , this is a lovely post i hope i can keep this in mind

  6. This is such a great post and so true, I really get the diagnosis one. When you become a Mum you really do worry whether you are making the right decisions or if your child is happy, it really is one of the hardest jobs in the world but also one of the most rewarding ones that I will never tire from x

  7. YES! What a brilliant post. And one that I think we all need to read. The one that really choked me up was the diagnosis. It’s 7 years since my daughter got hers and there are still days that I can’t come to terms with it… Thank you for your encouragements.

    And congratulations because someone loved this post so much, they added it to the BlogCrush linky! Feel free to collect your “I’ve been featured” blog badge 🙂 #blogcrush

    1. Aww thank you so much for your very very kind words. Sending you much love, I’m very very honoured someone chose to link up my post x

  8. Absolutely love this- reassuring to all mums out there. I spent the day in my pjs with my baby the other day and felt a little guilty for having a lazy day. However, it did us both a world of good! 🙂

    Violet

  9. Thank you. I felt so low today, trying to stay on top of it all and crumbling in the process.
    Then I read this and discovered that I was not the only one out there, as a single mum, feeling desperate and wondering how to cope with it all. Just knowing that there is a community that is going through the same thing as I, and understands it all, is such a comfort….

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