You are enough. You are the best mummy your little one(s) could have. You are a good partner. You are a good person. You are not a failure. You are enough.
I know that sometimes the house isn’t as clean as you would like.
That dusts now sits where once there were beautifully clean surfaces. I know that your once tidy house is now strewn with toys, and that no sooner have you tidied them than they reappear. But that is ok, the dust will wait. The toys will not always be there. There will be time enough for a magazine perfect house when the children are grown.
I know that the meals you cook aren’t always the meals you wish they were.
I know it’s a while since any recipe book – with the possible exception of a weaning one – has been held by your hands. I know you sometimes just grab a bag of crisps on the go for your lunch, I know it’s been a while since you’ve cooked anything more glamorous than sausage and mash. But that is ok, your family are fed. No one is going hungry. This time will not last. There will not always be a little one clamouring for your attention whilst you cook. You will not always need to cook whilst standing on one leg so the other can guard the bin. One day you will have unlimited time to sit and look at recipe books and cook whichever meals you like. You’ll sit that day and miss days like these and wonder why you thought fish fingers weren’t enough.
I know you find it hard right now to divide your time between two, to meet the needs of one whilst ensuring the other doesn’t feel neglected.
I know you often feel like you need to divide yourself in half. I know you feel like you aren’t doing a good job, that you can’t be everything to everyone. You don’t need to worry though. You don’t need to be everything. It’s ok to ask for help and it’s ok if sometimes they just play alone or together. They love you, they know you love them. Your best is enough.
I know it may have been a while since you’ve shaved your legs, visited the hairdresser, and maybe even too long since you’ve taken a shower.
It’s ok. It’s ok that you don’t always get the time to look how you want to. And it’s ok if you want to take time to look how you want to as well. Being a mum is such a careful balance. It’s ok to put your family first and it’s ok to put yourself first too. Whichever you do, you are enough.
I know sometimes you are less patient than you would like.
That sometimes you get grumpy about tiny things, things that wouldn’t normally bother you at all. That’s ok, you are human. You are tired, it’s been a long time since you got any sleep. It’s normal to feel grumpy sometimes. Go easy on yourself, take time to relax when you can. And remember you are doing your best. You are enough.
I know some days you may not want to do crafts, to play, to be a Pinterest mum and that is Ok. Sometimes it’s good to your children explore, to find their creativity, and even to be bored. You play with them lots, everything you do, you do it for them. You do not need to be perfect. You are enough.
I know you love your children.
I know you love your partner. I know you are doing your best, your very best. And that is enough. Your family are loved, they are fed, they are cared for. The only thing you need to do now is love yourself a little bit more.
Another Mummy Who Understands What It’s Like Not To Feel Enough